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This Parent’s Children Will Be In The Woods

February 9, 2011 by Shelli

“In every walk with Nature one receives far more than he seeks.” (John Muir)

The book, Last Child in the Woods, by Richard Louv, tells the story of today’s staggering divide between children and the outdoors. It is not a new book. I think I first read it three years ago. It has since been expanded.

Enjoying northern California's Muir Woods on a trip last week.

The book should be required reading for all parents – and heck, even for all educators.

Louv is a journalist and author of seven books about the connections between family, nature and community. In Last Child in the Woods, Louv links today’s wired, “nature-deficit” generation with rises in obesity, attention disorders, and depression. This important book has essentially created a national conversation about the disconnection between children and nature, and its message has inspired “Leave No Child Inside” initiatives throughout the country.

As a very wired person, myself, and someone who adores the outdoors but also loves technology for its connectivity and enabling features, I’m very interested in nature-deficit disorder. Specifically, I’m interested in seeing that it doesn’t penetrate my family and the upbringing of our three young sons.

I am so enriched by my own time spent outdoors and in nature, that I really think people are robbing their lives from being full when they don’t allow for the experience of being outdoors. In my humble opinion, there is no more effective way to “create space for oneself” than to step outside. Sure, I like to go for miles outside, usually on foot. And, I’m lucky that I live on the frontier of Wyoming, where it’s pretty easy to create space. Heck, there is nothing but space here. Big open, empty space.

Our sons and some of their friends playing for hours in an old tree.

But a person needs only to step outside to find the opportunity for creating space and solitude. A bird’s song, the sound of a creek flowing nearby, the smell of pine, or of rain on sagebrush, fresh air or the sun’s warmth against the face. All of these things are effective in creating not only a physical, but emotional and mental space that facilitates a clearing of sorts, as well as rejuvenation, creativity, restoration and other outcomes. (Again, John Muir said it best: “Climb the mountains and get their good tidings. Nature’s peace will flow into you as sunshine flows into trees. The winds will blow their own freshness into you, and the storms their energy, while cares will drop away from you like the leaves of Autumn.”)

Some of my most successful business ideas came to me when I was exploring some trail. I most easily solve problems or find answers to big questions during solitude in nature. And, time shared outdoors with my family often feels richer than time shared indoors.

By the way, I am grateful to my parents, who got us out often for weekends in Yellowstone, picnics on the South Pass and in Sinks Canyon and on ski outings. All of this exposure to the outdoors at an early age had a big impact on me.

Articles like Solitude and Leadership, which does a compelling job of linking solitude to leadership, are intriguing. (Thanks to friend Dan Mezick for sharing the article with me).

I am a huge fan and evangelist for the National Outdoor Leadership School (NOLS), which is headquartered here in my town of Lander, WY. NOLS teaches leadership to thousands of young and old using nature and the outdoors as a platform. Courses are provided throughout the world.

As parents of three young sons, my husband, Jerry, and I do not take the outdoors and its impact on a person lightly. We want to give it to — and require it for — our sons, Wolf, 10, Hayden, 8, and Fin, 3.

Here are some of the moments that the outdoors have facilitated for our family:

Filed Under: Family, Fitness, Frontier Life, Life and Leadership, National Parks, Technology, Travel & Tourism Tagged With: last child in the woods, nature, nature deficit disorder, outdoors, solitude, space

Just Being With It — or Trying To, Anyway

February 4, 2011 by Shelli

I know, I often quote Yoda: Do or do not. There is no try. But I’m not a natural when it comes to present time consciousness. Really living in the moment, fully, without thinking of the past or future, is work for me. I can’t just do it. For me, it requires practice. So that I did — during a hike among towering Coastal Redwoods in California’s Muir Woods.
Check it out:

Filed Under: Frontier Life, Life and Leadership, National Parks, Travel & Tourism Tagged With: living in the moment, meditation, mindfulness, patience, present time consciousness, solitude

The End — Of My Weight Loss Journey

February 1, 2011 by Shelli

This is Post 33 of my fitness/weight loss journey blogging.

I did a Grand Canyon Rim-to-Rim-to-Rim in May, 2010.

Today marks The End to something that has been very significant to me: My weight loss journey.

Just under two years ago, I weighed almost 165 pounds and was chubby and pretty lazy. Today, I am smaller than I’ve been since high school and yet stronger and more capable than ever. I weigh 129 and am not soft or lazy anymore.

My trainer and I recorded data during the journey. Here’s the proof in numbers:

Baring it all. (It took courage to reveal my numbers early on)

What a difference 22 months and a bunch of hard work, sacrifices and commitment make.

Near the end of March 2009 – 22 months ago – I found myself in the office of friend and personal trainer Steve Bechtel, at his Elemental Training Center, in my hometown of Lander, Wyoming.

I was at the end of my rope. In a health and fitness rut, a week earlier I stepped on the scale to see what I knew but what hadn’t been verified with real data – I was overweight. The scale indicated I weighed 164.

Every night for about three years, I would retire to bed with this same, deep, nagging feeling – let’s call it what it was, REGRET – that didn’t just speak to me, it yelled, angrily at me: “Another day went by and you did nothing about it. You didn’t exercise. You didn’t eat the right things and you ate too much. You’re lazy. You feel like crap. You have young children. You’re operating a business and trying to expand it. You need more energy. You have to change things. As soon as possible. But another day went by and you, well, once again did nothing to change things.” Self-talk like this went on probably every night for three years. It was ugly.

In fairness, I should point out that I did have a lot going on in my life. My husband, Jerry, and I had two young sons at the time, and a third on the way, we owned a business, of which I was the CEO. The business was going great and I was busy innovating and capitalizing on what was abundant opportunity. I loved my work and was passionate about our business’ potential. At the same time, I was pursuing prospective partners to help put wheels on the company’s expansion plans. I was probably investing 75 hours a week toward work, plus trying to be a great mother and wife.

So if I needed excuses for my getting soft, chubby and lazy, I didn’t have to look very hard to find them. And they felt like plausible excuses, until each night when that nagging regret kicked in.

I should also point out that most of my life, up until the space between March 2006 and March 2009, I was probably in above-average health. I played basketball in college, and after that, got into mountain biking, snowboarding, snowshoeing, backpacking, trail running, distance day hiking and cross country skiing.

Hell fire, even while I weighed almost 160, I hiked the Shoshone Lake hike above Lander, which is a difficult, 21-mile hike. But I paid dearly for it for days following and certainly it was not the fantastic experience it is when I’m fit and have energy to spare and a “lighter load” to carry.

Skiing on February 23 of last year.

Outside of operating our business, I was no longer confident either. I was chubby and felt lazy, because, well, physically I was. My self-esteem tanked. We’d take family trips and I wouldn’t swim with Jerry and the boys at the hotel pool because I didn’t want to put a swimming suit on. I found myself turning down speaking invitations. I didn’t “go out” as much – meaning even to make simple trips to the grocery store, etc. I “hid” myself as much as possible while focusing on business and trying my best to be a good mom and wife.

So, in March 2009, shortly after I ordered the size 12 pants, and upon encouragement from my friend, Sharon, there I sat on Steve’s couch in his office at Elemental Training Center.

I won’t rehash everything here because I’ve covered my weight loss and fitness journey pretty thoroughly right here on this blog. (I’ve compiled a list containing all 33 posts with links to each here. Please check them out and feel free to share them if you think they’ll inspire others to get off the couch and add vitality and years to their lives.)

Family hiking photo at Blue Ridge Lookout, August 2010.

But let me say this. Basically I let three years, at least, slip by in my life that – from a vitality and health quality standpoint – were less than extraordinary. Frankly, from a health standpoint, those three years were, at best, mediocre, and it bothered me then, and now, that I can’t get that time back to do over in a more healthy body and mind.

So as I sat on the couch confronting my overweight and sloth-like status with Steve, I committed to losing weight and getting in excellent health.

Summiting the Grand Teton, August 2009.

One of the most important realizations I had early on that was probably more instrumental than any other thing in my weight loss journey’s success, is that there is a (huge) difference between deciding and committing.)

I have a poignant memory from that day that marked The Start of my weight loss journey: I was on my way home from my meeting with Steve and I was at a red light on Main Street waiting to turn left on S. 5th Street to head home.  I thought first of the brevity of life. How short of time we have and all that’s important to me and how best can I live it to the fullest while honoring those I love so much and who love me. I realized at that time that the changes I was about to make were gigantic. They would be changes I would make for life. For eternity.

Sure, I would have to eat more vegetables. Drink more water. Eat less junk food. Exercise harder and on a regular basis. (I eventually made the decision, on my own, to give up all grains/complex carbohydrates, which for the first few weeks required monumental will power.) I would have to get up super early in the morning.

As I sat there at that red light thinking about all this, it may sound cheesy – and extreme – but I remember thinking: I am giving up frozen pizza not for a month or a year but probably for the rest of my life. The commitment was that big. I was signing up for changes that were to last a lifetime.

The change I was committing to meant more than taking a few difficult-but-temporary steps.

And, I was all in.

So, in a nutshell, yesterday, Jan. 31, 2011, The End of my weight loss journey was met. On March 20, I weighed 158 pounds and my body fat was about 27 percent. Today, I weigh 129 pounds and have 10.9% body fat.

More significantly, though, my life has gotten so much fuller and richer – on all fronts. I’m a better mother. I can not only play and romp with our three young sons, I have a fighting chance of keeping up with them on the slopes, in our wrestling matches and in foot races. I’m a better, happier, more loving wife. I am more confident in my work. I have enjoyed countless, awe-inspiring outdoor experiences during the last 22 months that I would have absolutely missed out on had I not embarked on my weight loss/fitness journey.

Family ski outing.

Among other things, I climbed the Grand Teton, completed a Grand Canyon Rim-to-Rim-to-Rim in a less than 24 hours, I placed third in my age group in the Rendezvous 25k Ski Race last year, I went on a dozen or more “epic” day hikes in my beloved Wind River Range that were 21-32 miles each.

I also learned a lot about fitness and training. Steve Bechtel is a brilliant trainer who knows his stuff. As many would agree, he could be “a trainer for the stars.” He set the bar high and drove me hard, both things I required in order to push myself. He introduced me to high intensity and metabolic training. He helped get me strong without “bulking up.” The latter is proven by the reality that while I’m significantly smaller than I’ve been since I was in high school, I’m stronger than ever. I did 21 consecutive pull-ups, 30 dips, bench-pressed 132 pounds five times, dead-lifted 135 pounds 39 times, did 26 back squats of 135 pounds, and did 16 front squats of 135 pounds.

Today, I often find myself close to (happy) tears when I think about how full and rich my life is. This is in very, very large part the result of my weight loss and fitness accomplishments.

My weight loss journey has ended, but my pursuit of staying in great fitness will never end. I have arrived at a particular weight but I know it’s an ongoing effort to stay healthy. I can say this: I’ve tasted the Koolaid and I’m never going back. I’m saying yes to vitality, great health and a full life. I’m saying no to mediocrity and to just getting by when it comes to my health. Life is too short. And I love it too much.

During these past two years, I also reinvented my professional self, and became a certified life and leadership coach, and was also recently certified by the American Fitness Professionals and Associates as a nutrition consultant. Many of my coaching clients have weight loss as a major goal in their life.

I, for one, don’t underestimate weight loss as being something that’s of significant importance in one’s life. It’s not something to toss aside as a vanity item – quite the contrary. Everything in my life is better as a result of weighing less and being more “able” to live my life to the fullest. Being the best person I can be for those who love me and for those I love is absolutely related to the condition of my health and well being. (And okay, sure, it’s also great to fit into my designer jeans.)

During the last 22 months I’ve often told people I was reinventing myself. But what happened during the last 22 months was a transformation.

My sincere thanks to my husband, Jerry, and our sons, Wolf, Hayden and Fin, who were especially important in this journey; to my parents and other family members, to my close friends, to Steve Bechtel and his team at Elemental Training Center, and to all of you who have read this blog and/or support me with your friendship and positivity. I don’t take any of it lightly, and I am grateful to all of you.

Thanks for following this journey. I will be happy to share any specifics about what I did during my weight loss journey with you, including tips and tricks. If you wish, I will also light a fire under you, if that’s what you’re needing.

My main team.

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Elemental Gym has a fantastic gym, some terrific programs and classes that will help you achieve better fitness. And, I might add, some great personal trainers: Steve Bechtel, Ellen Bechtel, Jagoe Reid, Sophie Mosemann and Lee Brown.

Filed Under: Family, Fitness, Life and Leadership Tagged With: diet, exercise, fat loss, Fitness, lifestyle, nutrition, personal training, training, weight loss

Do You Detect A “Service Engine Soon” Alert?

January 29, 2011 by Shelli

"Service Engine Soon" alert serves as a useful metaphor for me.

Yesterday I was driving to Beaver Creek Nordic Area south of my hometown of Lander, WY, when the “Service Engine Soon” indicator light came on.

“Just great,” I thought. Suddenly I became uneasy, concerned if I was going to have car problems. Sure, I had my cell phone and I’m a member of AAA and I’m in shape enough to hoof it some miles if necessary. Still, the anxiety that encompassed me because of the constant reminder of this “alert” was disconcerting. It was nagging at me. Try as I might, I couldn’t get the alert and the uneasiness it cast over me, out of my mind.

My destination was on South Pass, on the Continental Divide, about 26 miles away, where there is no cell phone signal.

The “Service Engine Soon” alert could mean I was about to have car problems. Or, it could mean that it’s not an emergency, just to be mindful of getting the engine serviced. I could have hundreds of miles to drive with that alert lit up without anything happening. I resigned to the latter. I just couldn’t bring myself to ditch the pre-arranged ski outing I had planned.

This got me thinking about the “Service Engine Soon” alert and how it is a great metaphor in so many situations in life. I began to realize that a version of this alert  — the nagging and uneasiness it brings with it — happens frequently for me. It just doesn’t show itself in the form of a lit-up alert that is in front of my face.

Here are some examples of when my own”Service Engine Soon” alert is detected:

• My parents live here in town. I want to spend more time with them. When a couple of days have gone by and I haven’t talked to either of them, my “Service Engine Soon” alert comes on.

• If it’s been a few days and I haven’t been to the gym, the “Service Engine Soon” nagging kicks in.

• When the day is finally over and everyone in our house is in bed and sleeping. Except for me. I’m thinking about a question one of our sons asked that I didn’t at the time hear or respond to. The “Service Engine Soon” alerts me and I make a mental note that I need to make this right at the earliest opportunity. It’s too important not to, and I’m sorry I wasn’t paying better attention.

• When it’s Friday and I’m reviewing my task/to-do list for the week and realize there is a task or two that were to be done earlier in the week and should be checked off, but for one reason or another I keep ignoring or working around them.

• When I’ve skipped going to church, especially if it’s becoming too frequent of an occurrence. When I drive by the church, the “Service Engine Soon” alert inside me goes off.

• It’s been a month since I’ve had a “date night” with my husband, Jerry. We usually enjoy a couple of date nights every month. The indicator goes off in my mind if we haven’t been honoring this.

• I have two sisters and a brother, who all have families and do not live in Lander. They mean the world to me. And yet, I’m not keeping in good touch with them — and I want and intend to. Again, I can detect the alert and its nagging as a result of this.

• I’ve received not one, but two, reminders from the dentist about an appointment for teeth cleaning/oral prevention.

• The basement continues to be cluttered, despite my intention to gradually be making progress in sorting through it.

Of course this is only a small sampling. In reviewing this, it’s clear to me that this “Service Engine Soon” detection brings with it not only a nagging, but also feelings of guilt. In my experience, when I feel guilt that is self-imposed (not guilt placed on me by others), it usually means I’m not  honoring things that are of value to me, and as a result, there could be unwanted consequences.

For this reason, I value the “Service Engine Soon” alert implications in my own life. (By the way, I made it to my destination and had a stellar morning of skiing. But when I got back in the car to return home, there was that pesky alert again. It didn’t go away. The engine still needs serviced.)

Do you ever have “Service Engine Soon” moments, and if so, would you care to share some of yours?

As usual, thanks so much for reading.

Filed Under: Family, Frontier Life, Life and Leadership, Travel & Tourism Tagged With: alert, guilt, honoring, importance, reminders, values

An Inquiry: What Is It To Dare To Choose?

January 26, 2011 by Shelli

What is it to dare to choose? This is an inquiry I’ve been thinking about as I develop my leadership and coaching business. (By the way, thinking about an inquiry is a great way to productively spend time during solitude)

Certainly, to be able to choose whom I want to work with and serve, is a great privilege and opportunity.

When I think of choose, here are the meanings that come to my mind:
To have freedom and independence
To select
To exclude
To honor preference
To designate
To pick
To appoint
To commit to
To single out
To say “no” to everything I’m not choosing

Okay, so now that I have a clearer understanding of what it means to choose, do I dare to choose – in this case, my customers and clients?

To choose is not something I take lightly. To make a choice is to decide and to commit, and to do so is, in itself, important.

To dare means to take a risk, to be courageous and to do something that is not safe.

Choosing is empowering, but it also is scary. After all, in my choosing, I’m not only choosing the customers/clients I will serve, but as importantly, I’m choosing the customers/clients I will not serve.

This is where it gets uncomfortable.

To dare is to do something that is noncompliant and bold, which – fortunately – makes it also thrilling and adventurous.

So the question really is, do I have the guts to choose the customers/clients I want to serve?

I think I do. I just need to dare to do so.

I asked a bunch of friends and colleagues to weigh in. Their responses – which add much to this post – are below. (Thanks to all of you who shared with me!)

WHAT IS IT TO DARE TO CHOOSE?

Robert Richman, a friend, coach and visionary who worked for Tony Robbins and now heads Zappos Insights: “Daring to choose means fully knowing that all options lead to learning, which gets you wherever you need to go.”

Bill Sniffin, my father and go-to consultant for almost everything: “To me, a person lives his life either acting or reacting; to me, “dare to choose” means choosing to act so you control your own life and your destiny, rather than having your life dictated to you, bit-by-bit, through the actions of others.”

Kate Roeske, certified life, executive and leadership coach: “Daring to choose:  it means willing to risk not getting what I want but also not living with regretting that I didn’t try!”

Holly Copeland, a friend and spatial ecologist for The Nature Conservancy: “To dare to choose is to find your real priorities – the things that bring true happiness to your daily life – and align your daily activities with those priorities. Then, let guiltlessly the rest drop away. Reminds me of a favorite Shakespeare quote that I discovered as a teenager: To thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man.”

Jared Kail, a friend and consultant/business owner: “One of the hardest — possibly THE hardest — decision one makes in life is to embrace greatness. That ability to be great, to use our natural gifts of energy, brilliance and creativity to become exceptional dwells within us all. Yet, to accept that greatness, to dare to choose to be something more than we are today, takes a kind of courage that escapes most of us. ‘Daring to choose’ means summoning all of our courage, from our bootstraps to our top hats, to take that simple but terrifying step into our own, personal, unknown greatness.”

John Smithbaker, a friend, founder of Fathers in The Field and President of Brunton Outdoor Group :
“Daring to choose is daring to make a commitment. Once the commitment is made, daring to keep your commitment is at the heart of the decision to choose and if your choice really will make a difference.”

Mei Ratz, friend and woman who aspires to be “an honest photographer, a soul-filled friend, a bold advocate, and a ripple in the surf of humanity”: “Daring to choose is to stand in the midst of all the ‘I should…’ or ‘What will they think?…’ or ‘What if I fail?’…. and holding your energy and your soul close and listening. You grow when YOU choose, you become art when YOU choose, you become the best version of yourself when you slow down, stand still, and jump off the side that no one else even chose to see.”

Beth Harte, a friend, marketer, blogger, speaker, communicator, thinker, connector (people & dots), adjunct professor, says: “Daring to choose means commitment to being a specialist (over a generalist) and accepting all of the hard work, passion and success that come with it.”

Mike Lilygren, a friend and one of the owners of Bridge Outdoors: “Dare to take a risk; choose the challenging paths in life as they will push you to grow and enliven you.”

Fabian Lobera, friend and director of business development for PitchEngine: “To dare to choose is a challenge to openly take a controversial position that knowingly will require justification through difficult and courageous future action.”

George Deriso, friend and entrepreneur in Boulder, CO., says: “We are faced everyday with choices, nearly all of which are simple decisions to make. What you have for breakfast today is a choice that likely will have little consequence. However, at one time or another everyone has to make a choice that may have dire consequences, and the way forward seems obscured or treacherous in some way. Nonetheless, a choice must be made as no action (which is a choice in and of itself) would cause even greater consequences. Thus, you are in a position where you must dare to choose. In this event, the key personality trait is courage. To make a choice and move past the decision point requires courageousness you may have thought you did not have.”

Doug Peck, a friend, fabulous chef, executive coach, and a ‘change agent’ for business cultures that want to use the power of coaching in management: “Daring to choose is having the courage to confront your real values, and confessing them to yourself and to the world.”

John Scott Stevens, a friend and RKC instructor, in Omaha, NE.: “To dare to choose is to be presented with a choice to be tested; how you choose reveals your true character and shapes your destiny.”

Kyle Redinger, friend, entrepreneur, management consultant and CrossFit gym owner:  “Daring to choose means exploring options above and beyond what’s socially, physically and professionally acceptable.”

Joel Krieger, friend and group creative director at IQ Interactive: “Rather than passively sleepwalking your way through life (which is much easier, but far less interesting or rewarding), it’s a fearless, conscious and active existence that embraces the positive or negative consequences of your decisions.”

Kathy Browning, a close friend who works at The Nature Conservancy: “Dare to choose: I choose to embrace life with abandon because it’s the things I didn’t/don’t do that I regret. (Usually.) We only go around once.”

Sharon Terhune, a close friend and elementary school teacher: “Daring to choose essentially means that you are brave enough to honor your true self.”

Shannon Kaminsky, a friend and engineering tech:  “When you don’t choose, you are choosing not to choose, so therefore you are still choosing; choosing to be driven by everything but your OWN goals, dreams and aspirations.”

Jonni Fargo, a friend and director of account development for American Express:  “Having the courage to make one choice from multiple options when there are risks by either decision you make.”

I would love to hear from others… What is it to you to dare to choose?

Filed Under: Family, Frontier Life, Life and Leadership, Marketing Tagged With: business development, choosing, committing, daring, Life and Leadership, taking risk

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Hi. My name is Shelli Johnson. I live on the frontier in Lander, Wyoming. I’m a wife, a mother, an entrepreneur, certified life/leadership coach, wellness coach, keynote presenter and inspired speaker, leadership development facilitator, personal development strategist, writer and adventure guide. This blog mostly includes stories about adventures and travel, but other passions are reading/books, technology, fitness, nutrition, and national parks, so you’ll find a wide range of articles here. I am founder of Yellowstone Journal and YellowstonePark.com, and NationalParkTrips.com, which was my first business. My current company, Epic Life Inc., is in its 7th year, and going gangbusters. If you’re interested in learning more about my current work, I hope you’ll jump over there and learn more about that. I have a more personal blog, more directly related to life and living and leadership, at YourEpicLife.com/blog. I’d love it if you’d also check out that collection of my writings. Thank you for stopping by! Finally, if you’d like to connect with me directly, please email me if you’d like to connect.

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